“Why should I apologize? I didn’t do anything wrong to her.”
“You don’t realize how hurt she was by your actions?? ”
“Because these are words of rebuke…where they (Bnai Yisrael) angered G-d…, he (Moshe) only refers to these places by allusion, out of honor for Bnai Yisrael.” (Rashi on Devorim 1:1)
In a novel explanation of Rashi, Rav Yosef Nendik,zt”l, the Kletzker Mashgiach, explains that if a person is oblivious to his wrong doings, he’ll need a lengthy explanation to be reprimanded. For a person who understands his mistake, a hint is sufficient.
Therefore, it was a sign of honor that we just needed a small illusion to our errors!!
Also, being nice and holding your tongue when someone says something to wind u up faster than a rolex is great because not only are you exersising your self control but the impression you leave on other people is astounding!